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The Value of Play
Small World Play
Policies & Procedures
"Children are not little adults and it is difficult
for them to behave in a manner which we, as adults, would deem appropriate"
Following are some of the behaviour management strategies
- Distract the child. If a child repeatedly
takes a toy from another child ask him or her if they will come and
help with another task. This will take both parties out of the
negative situation. This strategy may not work with older children.
- Redirect a situation where tension is building
- We cannot "force" a child to share. If
a child is playing with something another child wants we encourage the
second child to ask the first child can they play with it "after".
- We never "force" a child to apologize.
An apology is meaningless unless it is internally motivated.
- Encourage children to sort out their own differences
without running to an adult - this is a valuable tool and will
stay with them all their lives.
- Adults never take sides, judge or assign blame
- even if we know exactly what has happened. We are always independent.
Encourage both sides to explain what happened and give the children
time to work out a compromise.
- If an older child is aware that a particular behaviour
is unacceptable and yet they persist they must be presented with
options and consequences. E.g. "If you smack Peter with
the doll I will have to put the dolls on the top shelf until after lunch.
But if you don't hit Peter with the dolls anymore you can play with
the dolls now. Which would you like to do?" This is quite
complicated to a small child and believe it or not, they may have to
think about it for a few minutes! And remember, hold to what you
- Monitor and change the child's environment regularly
- often fights or arguments break out because the children are bored
or frustrated - activities are too easy or too difficult for them.
- Try to ignore negative behaviour as much as possible
and focus on positive behaviour. For example, if Billy will not
put his books away after himself, leave the books there and praise Bobby,
for putting his books away. Billy will want some of that praise!
- Monitor where and when arguments break out.
Maybe there is a problem with that particular area and it may need to
be rearranged. Maybe children are hungry or tired at that time
and lunch or nap time may need to be changed.